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I'm about to tell you the 10 harsh truths I learned this year.
WARNING: Don't read this if you are not mentally ready.
Mary Fung
December 31, 2023
Hey Reader,
Today is officially the last day of 2023.
What a damn wild ride it has been.
Love is pain.
Here are the 10 harsh truths I learned this year:
Life is fucken hard.
There is nothing you can do about it other than embrace it. Don't fight the hard. Everything happens for a reason at that exact time whether you like it or not.
Your thoughts are out to get you.
How many times did you say to yourself "I should do this"?
Or "I wish I could do that"
Or "What if..."
Thoughts are not reality my friends. They are a figment of your imagination. They become reality when you act on it.
Stop overthinking and listen to your gut for once.
Either turn them into action or let them goooo
You don't want more money. You just don't know what you want.
What's the money for? Travel around the world? Buy whatever you want? Not work? To make you feel valuable? Perhaps gain respect or confidence?
How long will it take for you to get bored of these superficial things?
If you are brave enough, take a deep look and see if you are trying to compensate for something else you are lacking.
Someone dumber than you is more successful than you.
Overthinking leads to inaction. Risk aversion leads to inaction.
Successful people are the ones who are actually doing something, trying something, or failing at something. They are living life.
I can say that the educated are the dumb ones - they are fooled by society - thinking that slaving away till they are 62 years old to only then enjoy life is normal.
The person you choose to be with for the rest of your life is the most important decision you will ever make.
Don't let society rush you to marry someone you know isn't right for you.
I don't know where I would be without a partner in crime that grows with me. Someone to pick me up when I am down (my life is a rollercoaster ride if you can't tell). Someone who understands me without having to say a word. Someone who somehow perfectly balances me out.
Expectations are the killer of happiness.
Expected to get a good raise and didn't get it?
Expected to get to the job interview early and got stuck in traffic?
Expected to enjoy this expensive meal and it tasted like a box of salt?
Don't expect anything. This way you won't be disappointed.
Nothing lasts forever.
This one personally stings. Experiences, feelings, friends, family, pets and YOU will not be here 100 years from now.
Enjoy the moment. Be present. Be grateful. Don't take life too seriously.
We aren't born to just work for most of our lives.
If you are having a great family picnic, don't start thinking about "Oh if we had this, it would be perfect." It is already perfect. The power of enough.
Get your face out of your phone.
You will never be ready. You will never feel like it.
To change, you need to force yourself to do things.
I hate exercising. I still do it.
The thought of walking up to a stranger gives me the chills to this day. I just do it.
Click that send button. Pick up that phone. Invest in yourself. Bet on yourself.
It's not the lack of time, it's the lack of confidence that is stopping you.
If you don't know why you are doing what you are doing, then you aren't doing it for you.
Everything you have done is what you've been taught directly or indirectly to do.
Go to school --> Graduate college --> Get a high-paying job --> Work hard and rise to the top --> Marry someone --> Buy a house --> Make some kids --> Retire --> Enjoy life
Ever stop and ask yourself why?
If you are questioning whether you want to do this for the rest of your life, the answer is NO.
You are bored, lost and stuck in life because you know you could be doing so much more. Your life has become robotic - doing the same shit all the time.
But your fears hold you back.
You make up all the excuses humanely possible to make yourself feel better.
You are NOT fine.
I'm sorry if you are the same person you were a year ago...maybe with less hair, a larger shirt size, and a growing list of regrets.
BONUS: Some of these harsh truths will resonate with you. You will feel inspired and will throw it on your 2024 goals list.
But the truth is - maybe 2% of you will actually do something to change.
And that sucks because I know you could do so much more.
You just need guidance and clarity.
And maybe a little push.
Happy New Year's Eve! :)
You know where to find me: 👇
Sincerely,
Mary F
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